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Monday, April 23rd, 2012

Live Well in Your Home!

Seniors when asked, where do you want to live, respond,  at home of course. Seniors are very practical in their their thinking and are  well aware that there may come a time that they cannot, continue to live in the home they know and love. Seniors also understand that growing old can be difficult especially if they have chronic illness.  Admitting that its difficult to do the daily chores that once were easy is a hard thing to do, giving up ones independence knowing that once its gone it is gone can be depressing.

So how can we as adult children help?  We all want our elderly parents to be happy, but starting that conversation with  regards to remaining at home is  not always easy.  Children of elderly parents are sometimes quick to make assumption that “ Mother would be better off with ….or living in …….  These conversations lead to sometimes heated discussions and sometimes families are fractured forever.

Seniors like their familiar surroundings, they enjoy their “things” , a lifetime of collecting, memories ingrained in empty rooms, the living room where everyone gathered for Christmas and birthdays and happy celebrations.

If you are the adult child of an elderly parent have you tried to have a conversation with your mom or dad or both about the future? Have you asked them what they want?

Has one of your siblings ever said  “Well that’s it, Mom can’t be on her own anymore! Lets see where she should go!”

If your elderly parent, is in an assisted living environment, have  you thought of having someone other than family visit for a few hours a couple of times a week?

Your mom has a routine doctor’s appointment and guess what, you are tied up at work, and simply cannot leave,who do you call or do you cancel?

If you are the primary caregiver for your elderly parent, could you use a little bit of time to yourself,  letting someone else do the caregiving once or twice a week?

There is help out there, and yes sometimes it is costly, but what is the price you will pay eventually?

Companionship, elder-sitting,light meal preparation and clean up,going to the doctor,taking mom shopping for the new shoes she is needing,having someone who is not a stranger and you can trust stay overnight while you are out of town on a business trip….These are some of the instances you want to plan for, so that if and when your elderly parents or you need help you have a plan of action.

It starts with a conversation, then a few visits and then before you know it, there is peace of mind, for your elderly mom or dad or loved one and above all yourself!

With Caring,

Elizabeth Shewchuk, a Certified Professional Consultant on Aging (CPCA)®. CPCAs are committed to providing exceptional service, and have supplemented their professional training by learning about the unique and changing needs of the 50+ population. Make sure that the professionals serving you have taken the time and made the commitment to learn more about YOU! To find CPCAs in good-standing, go to www.CPCAcanada.com

To find out how Daughter For A Day Senior Care can help you and your loved ones with care and support for your elderly loved one please call me at   778-990-8315 or visit www.daughterforaday.ca

Elizabeth

Categories : Home, Seniors, Support
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The Caregiver

Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

The Caregiver

Caregivers are often willing to identify themselves as the caregiver of an elderly parent, or relative.  Some cultures believe that caring for an elderly or ill family member is an unquestioned responsibility, one that the whole family will share in.

The term caregiver is disliked by most people who become caregivers, it seems as though it signifies that an individual has taken on a new role and identity  or stigma that is attached to that role.  Often as soon as an adult child becomes a caregiver for an elderly parent, they  acknowledges the loss of independence an elderly parent has and that becomes difficult for adult children to accept. It is the same for a wife who becomes a primary caregiver to a husband of 45 years, the relationship significantly changes. A reversal of roles.

Caregivers need to understand that there are many services available to support them and they are not alone. They need to plan, so that they can manage their own health, both physical and mental so they do not become ill themselves.

Often in families, where there are several  children, one of the children steps forward and takes on the role.  Usually this adult child  would like to share the responsibility  with their siblings  but most often there is a sense of fait accompli and they are put into the role before they realize it and even though they want help, often it is not forthcoming and the role it is usually theirs to keep.

With Caring,

Elizabeth Shewchuk, a Certified Professional Consultant on Aging (CPCA)®. CPCAs are committed to providing exceptional service, and have supplemented their professional training by learning about the unique and changing needs of the 50+ population. Make sure that the professionals serving you have taken the time and made the commitment to learn more about YOU! To find CPCAs in good-standing, go to www.CPCAcanada.com

To find out how Daughter For A Day Senior Care can help you and your loved ones with care and support for your elderly loved one please call me at   778-990-8315.

Elizabeth

Categories : Seniors
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Caregiving

Monday, April 16th, 2012

Considering Caregiving

 

When seniors begin experiencing illness or disability, such as a fall,  resulting in broken bones, they begin to face a host of concerns one of which is who will help with caregiving. Most seniors are not used to, or comfortable with asking for help. We as adult children need to begin have this conversation with our elderly parents long before there is a crisis.  e are living a world now where we as adult children will be working longer years, our children will stay at home longer,we truly are the “Sandwich Generation”.

When seniors require caregiving, they must often deal with the grief associated with physical decline,the difficulty of being in pain constantly, and the frustration of not being able to continue to do the tasks that once were simple to complete.

Children  are primary caregivers caring for parents, the reversal of roles may initially be uncomfortable for both the senior parent and the adult child. Seniors often worry about depleting their financial resources, becoming a burden to their families, losing their dignity or control over their own care.

Seniors are most concerned with losing their independence, and as caregivers we must recognize this very early in the process and make every effort to communicate this understanding to the care recipient.

These are facts that demonstrate the need for caregivers:

By the time an adult reaches age 65, they are dealing with at least once chronic illness such as arthritis, diabetes or fibromyalgia.

By the seniors reach 75 they often must deal with two chronic illnesses at 85 they struggle with three or four illnesses.

We as caregivers can assist seniors as they face the physical changes that the years bring, we should focus on their strengths, abilities, and intelligence not on their limitations and difficulties. With modifications and help,many elderly seniors will be able to continue aging in their homes and lead enjoyable productive lives.

Elizabeth Shewchuk, a Certified Professional Consultant on Aging (CPCA)®. CPCAs are committed to providing exceptional service, and have supplemented their professional training by learning about the unique and changing needs of the 50+ population. Make sure that the professionals serving you have taken the time and made the commitment to learn more about YOU! To find CPCAs in good-standing, go to www.CPCAcanada.com

To find out how Daughter For A Day Senior Care can help you and your loved ones with care and support for your elderly loved one please call me at   778-990-8315.

Elizabeth 778-990-8315

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