Coping with Caregiving
It is very difficult to cope with aging parents or loved ones who require assistance and there is no right or wrong way to approach the issue. It is wise to be respectful of everyone’ s needs but it is so important to make sure that if you are a primary caregiver for an elderly parent or loved one to be respectful of your needs.
I have talked to individuals who have been the primary caregiver for both parents, each in different care facilities and the toll it took on her life, her resources and the burnout that was a result of years and years of care giving on her own.
Honesty is the best policy, be honest about what you are capable of, how much you can do, what are your limitations with respect to time and what are your limits as far as your physical and mental well being. It is important for you to make your care recipients aware of your need for your personal interests and things that bring about well being for yourself.
Follow these basic guidelines when discussing caregiving with your elderly parents or loved ones:
1. Be reassuring – It is so important for them to understand that you are helping and that the family bond is important.
2. Assessments of needs – by professionals such as geriatric doctors, family doctors, health authorities,and ins some cases family lawyers.and senior advocates.
3. Respect the needs of your elderly parents or loved one to remain in control and make some of the decisions, together.
4. Share the responsibility – with family members, try not to do it all on your own. Other family members, friends, neighbours or private home support companies.
5. Take stock – and re-evaluate as needs change. Keep accurate notes and records so that you have properly documented changes as they occur.
6. Make changes slowly and try not to become overwhelmed by what may come in the future.
7. Educate yourself as to what is available, what healthcare resources and support services are available.
8. Take care of yourself.
This was written by Elizabeth Shewchuk, a Certified Professional Consultant on Aging (CPCA)®. CPCAs are committed to providing exceptional service, and have supplemented their professional training by learning about the unique and changing needs of the 50+ population. Make sure that the professionals serving you have taken the time and made the commitment to learn more about YOU! To find CPCAs in good-standing, go to www.CPCAcanada.com
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